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  • Writer's pictureElizabeth Ellis


If one word has been used this week its instability. A completely understandable choice of words with the Prime Minister's resignation, cost of living crisis, social unrest and a war in Russia rumbling on as news headlines to worry us all.

As one social media post I saw this week put it "My son has lived through four chancellors, three home secretaries, two prime ministers and two monarchs. He's four months old".

All this of course comes on the back of Covid, Brexit and various other sources of huge change and instability in our collective lives. Suffice to say it's a lot!

It may feel at the moment that we as individuals don't have a lot (if any) control over the situation and that we're at the mercy of others as to when we'll get a sense of security or calm back in our lives. But there are things we can do to feel stable within ourselves and by tapping into the rules of the mind we can give ourselves the security we seek.

Our mind loves what's familiar and moves is towards what gives us pleasure.

The reason we find changes so de-stabilising is that they feel unfamiliar to us. If something feels familiar to us it gives us a sense of comfort or pleasure so therefore our mind naturally moves us towards it. Therefore, to hack this and make your mind work for you if there is something you want to feel or achieve you need to make it familiar. If there is something you don't want, make it unfamiliar.

Put another way our minds are naturally wired to protect us and so will move us away from pain and towards pleasure. So again, the way to make your mind work for you is to flip it around, if you want to stop eating sugary sweets you need to link eating such treats with negative emotions, pain and unpleasantness not the thrilling reward they currently represent.

In our current situation the best and possibly only place to find a sense of stability is within yourself. So, if you can make self-praise, self-esteem and self-belief familiar you can give that sense of stability to yourself. The way we talk to ourselves is very important and can directly link to our levels of self-esteem. If you choose the right words to dialogue with yourself, you will be able to use your mind powerfully and create a reality that reflects how you want to feel, not what is currently familiar. So, try telling yourself, I'm excited, I'm ready, I can do this.

If you tell your mind that something thrills you, excites you or elates you, you will feel more energised. If you choose the right words to dialogue with yourself and your mind you will create a reality that works for you. If something feels hard this week then try telling yourself, it's not hard it's unfamiliar. Then keep doing it over and over until it feels familiar.

Your mind does what you want it to do. In fact, it does what you tell it to do. So, you may as well tell it some extraordinary things.

If you want to learn more about tapping into the potential in your own mind or growing your self-esteem hypnotherapy can really help. Please feel free to drop me a message if you'd like to know more about how you can get stability back in your life.

Liz x

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